The realationship is it healthy?

Advanced Member Age : 35 Joined : 05 May 2008 Posts : 334

Dear Fancy , I have a friend who is in a relationship. She's been with this guy for about 3 or 4 years now. They just moved in together this past fall. However, they split EVERYthing down the middle. All bills, food, ect. (Which I understand.. to a point.) They live completely separate lives, but just come home to each other at night. He's gone a lot on weekends golfing with his dad and leaves her for 4 days at a time.. frequently. She's a full time student and works full time. He's a graduate with a great job. Does this sound balanced and healthy?

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Dear Reader ,
I think balanced and healthy would depend on who you are. For some this realtionship would work and they would be totally fullfilled. Others need more. Everyone is different in what they want and expect in life and relationships. If this young lady is happy then it works for her. If she is feeling lonely, left out or neglected then it probably is not healthy. Really the only person that knows this is the people involved in the relationship. If she is happy and content , possibly it would be because right now she is very busy with school and work both fulltime. She may be happy to be able to have some alone time just for herself. But again , only herself and her boyfriend would know.
Fancy

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Advanced Member Joined : 06 May 2008 Posts : 906

What is normal? Who defines it? What is healthy? Who defines that? We each have our own ideas on what is normal and healthy. No one else can tell you what is right for you. Only you can decide that. Let her be. This could be healthy for her, and it just might be her normal. Wink

Newbie Member Joined : 07 May 2008 Posts : 1

COULDNT HAVE SAID IT BETTER MYSELF ISTA!!!!

Subject: Re: The realationship is it healthy? Sun May 18, 2008 4:27 pm

you know what?, I think the same if both parties are happy with what the have then the hell with what anyone thinks!!!! They know what they have!